Ya can't spell "language" without the U! (YOU)
One of the main things to take away from this interpersonal course is that YOU as an individual, are the one who defines your reality, your space, your unique YOUniverse. Many things such as perceptions, emotions and identity scripts are within your control. Even if before taking this class, you believed these aspects of yourself and others were "the way they were born" or "that's just how I am"--now you have been empowered by understanding: This 'me' is just one way I can be, if I like being that way, and if I don't or if I am dissastisfied, I can be a different me! The tool for growth is , as Wood reminds us: language--it can limit us or propel us forward with progress and growth! Are you limiting yourself with language? Expand you vocabulary and expand your YOU niverse! For this portion of your final (20points) Identify 2 terms, (make sure no one else has used the same ones or I won't count your entry) pronouns or other words or short sayings that you use about yourself, either inwardly during negative self-talk or out loud in relationship-level communication that limit your growth or the growth of someone important to you--Language which you could improve. State the term or phrase and then provide and example of replacement language that will elevate you to be the YOU you aspire to be, expand yourself to become the 'self-actualized' YOU who uses powerful 'I' language, does not avoid conflict, listens with your heart and is mindful! Namaste!
My example: One thing is would like to change is my language when I get frustrated. I say "come on you piece of garbage" kind of under my breath when something falls or I drop something if I am in a hurry or can't get my keys in the lock fast enough. Know what I mean? This is a very negative phrase and it implies that inatimate objects are "letting me down" which is very egotistical. Random "inefficiency" has nothing to do with me, in fact, efficiency is my own perception, not every single thing in life is intended to be "efficient"--blooming flowers take a long time! So-I want to slow down, be more mindful and learn to let things go when they don't happen my way, acknowledge that I am not in control of anthing but myself and instead say "that's ok" which is a better response to teach my daughter too!