Chapter 7 deals with the mystery and the power as well as the risks of unchecked emotions and the importance of them in interpersonal scenarios. Choose a vocabulary word or key term you find interesting from chpt 7 and explain it in your own words. Read the previous entries to avoid choosing the same term as someone else.
"Emotion work" is like your interpretation of how you think you should react to a certain situation. For example, if someone drops their iPod or cellphone or some other expensive, treasured item, people usually say "Oh my god, I'm going to cry!!", regardless of weather you evince/ articulte the action or not. It has, for some reason, become an appropriate response to that type of situation.
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Surface acting is basically putting on a facade/mask to hide your true feelings. In other words, this is controlling the expression(s) you display on the outside even though you may not truly feel that way on the inside. The first example that comes to mind is that if someone takes or breaks something that is valuable to you, even though you're livid, you shouldn't smack or beat the crap out of that person for taking/breaking it. You should control and refrain yourself from doing so.
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Surface Acting - hiding your true emotions and acting in another manner. For instance, responding with politeness when someone insults you. You still feel the sting, but by being polite you avoid drawing out the situation and creating an uncomfortable scene. A kind of emotion work that allows us to try and control our emotions, but not a deep level.
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Self Talk
ReplyDeleteA couple of months ago, I decided to change my self talk. During this time I found myself at work muttering to myself "this job sucks." Although no one else would hear me complain about how terrible I thought my job was, I started to let my self talk manage me. I begin to show a complete lack of interest in my job.
It wasn't until one of my co-workers, who happens to be a good friend, mentioned that I should do something about it.
At that point I knew I had to take it upon my self to change my self talk into a positive tone. Instead of saying, "This job sucks" I started saying things like "I will finish school and get a better job." Since that point I have gone back to school to become a nurse. I still work at my job and go to school at the same time, but now I relaize that as long as my self talk remains positive
it won't be long until I meet my goal and start my career.
As long as your self talk remains positive, the only thing that can hold you back is yourself.
Tim Cereceres
Emotional Intelligence
ReplyDeleteThis includes discernment, wisdom, and understanding in the emotional arena. Let me explain. Discernment happens when someone is trying to percieve what is being conveyed emotionally by another person. A person might see someone who is agitated by their body gestures and tone of voice and thus conclude they are feeling angry. Wisdom is being able to decide when to show specific emotions in appropiate settings. A man working in customer service might be at his job and be really sad, but uses wisdom to decide that he cannot portray a sad image while working because it might drive customers away. Lastly, there is understanding which shows that a person grasps the meaning of how to show emotions in an efficient manner. A woman might realize it is better not to communicate anger to her daughter who spilt a glass of milk on accident because she understands that it isn't an efficient way of expressing her emotions.
Daniel McNeil
These are really good so far--it is helpful to review concepts that have been paraphrased--each version adds something--Smiles--S
ReplyDeleteSandra I am not sure if this qualifies for the blog assignment this week ,but here it goes one thing that struck me about emotions is how they can live beneath the surface whatever they may be. Sometimes I think of them like an index card waiting to be pulled up this is what comes up for me. A thought or an action happens in my life and poof there is an emotion that goes along with it. When I think or feel emotional intelligence I think about approicate response to that action event or news. When I read my grade on my revised paper I was having an emotion that I was sad even though it was not a bad grade. I was having expectations and they did not match up to my emotional expectations of what it was going to be. I will also really be getting into this section to as i am learning emotional boundries as well as my new physical boundries as living in a much smaller body it has brought up so many emotions I just keep hanging on for the ride.Michelle P
ReplyDeleteEmotional Intelligence.... Boy is it hard to express your emotions effectively when you feel compelled to let someone know you are very angry or very sad about something they have done. For instance, a person who has a tendency to be a "Hot Head" or "Time Bomb," has a very difficult time trying to express their anger without becoming destructive verbally or physically. Majority of the time, it can take them a very long time to calm down to the point where they are not yelling when they are speaking. It's almost like their thought process has become so irrational so quickly, that all they see is "RED." Overtime these people need to learn to be more aware of their feelings so they can learn how to deal with them.
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self talk
ReplyDeleteThis term refers to basically how we talk to ourselves. For example, when we have negative self talk we tend to be more negative in general. On the other hand, when we have more positive self talk we tend to be in better moods and see things in a more positive way. the most important idea is to be aware of self talk. This way if one does have negative self talk then they can work and try to be more postitve.
Framing Rules
ReplyDeleteIn chapter 7 framing rules stuck out to me the most. Framing rules is showing an emotion based on what were expected to feel because of the situation. For example, when someone gives you something you are suppose to show gratitued, when in actuality you may not really like what was given to you. In the world we live in it it so natural to react to things based on framing rules. I have reacted to things a certain way for so long, because that's what society has expected it to be. I guess when you do things repeatedly, it becomes second nature.
Bless McCrary
I think that surface acting is one of the emotions i use a lot. Because I'm always hiding the way I feel and showing a different emotion. Sometimes you have to do that because you don't want people to know how you are really feeling at times. Sometimes it can be just out of respect because you don't want to act a certain way when someone might be feeling down.
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Feeling Rules
ReplyDeleteIn the book it gives an example for feeling rules. In our culture during a funeral we are expected to feel remorse.You are expected to dress all in black. It is a sad situation. In certain cultures it is the complete opposite. People would celebrate in your honor if you passed. Sing, laugh, dance and just remember the good times. Certain cultures actually have a parade in your honor with the bands playing and what not.
A.I.R.
Deep acting greatly influenced my life as I was growing up. My parents taught me when to be thankful, when to be sorry, when to be polite, etc. For example, whenever my sister and I received a gift from somebody, my mom would always immediately say "What do you say..?" which was our cue to say "THANK YOU!" By doing this, my mom taught me that I should feel gratitude when I receive a gift.
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Perceptual view of emotions
ReplyDeleteokay... this term in my own words would mean that depending of a physical action we as humans define it a certain way, meaning making a connection and paring it with and emotion. An example would be that is somebody were to be winking at you, you would see it as the person was trying to come on to you but it could mean something totally different to someone else... maybe it means that they dont like you and thats why they arr blinking. everyone has a different reference for their asumptions
-Cristina Jimenez
Interactive View of Emotions- the idea that social and cultural rules shape how people express themselves and how they feel. It is made up of three major rules (which were mentioned by some in the blog): Framing Rules, Feeling Rules, and and Emotion Work.
ReplyDeleteI was somewhat surprised when reading that the Interactive View of Emotions was a relatively new concept.
Cognitive Labeling View of Emotions
ReplyDeleteThis view of emotions lets us specify what emotions we are feeling by how we label our physiological responses. I've notice that there are many responses that we might label differently depending on the situation. One such response are goosebumps. We can label goosebumps if we're in a cold room to just pertain to the fact that we're cold. If we are in a haunted house we might label goosenumps as a sign of fear. If we are in an job interview it might be that we are nervous. And lastly, if we were just touched ro shown some other kind of physical loving gesture by someone we like we are attracted to we might label it as liking. There are many such physiological responses that might even mean different things in different cultures. I find this very intriguing and believe that our perceptions of how we respond can help us in many events in life.
Zuleika Becrra
Deep Acting- This idea involves changing how we perceive and label events and phenomena. Basically saying that we act differently then we would normally. I've dealt with some situations where this idea of emotion works. An example would be once I was at work and while working with this guy as he talks about something that's happened to him(sorry I'm fuzzy on the details) and basically he goes on and on about how funny it was. I thought it was kinda funny, but nothing to go on and on about. It pretty much went out of hand, yet I pretended to laugh and smile at his little experience. This idea really helps when you want to be polite and/or friendly and I prefer a fake laugh rather than an awkward silence any day.
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The Defintion Emotional Intelligence is Intelligence regarding the emotions, especially in the ability to monitor one's own or others' emotions. it reminds me of the book I read once call Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Golman. It is a really good book. Totally worth reading. Goleman talks about "two minds"—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.
ReplyDeleteHe uses vivid examples of the five crucial skills of emotional intelligence, and shows how they determine our success in relationships, work, and even our physical well-being.
It also gives you an understanding about why people become emotional and emotionally overwhelmed. You learn about the parts of the brain that are responsible for emotional responses, and the various factors involved. It is very interesting.
Abrar
Counterfeit Emotional Language is an example of when people try to fake something their not. Like if at a job interview. On the outside you look cofident and estatic to be there but on the inside you're terrified about what will happen to you once you get face to face the employer.
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