Summer's COMING!!!!!!

Wow--Presentations have been so great--I enjoy every day of class with you guys--you're alot of fun! Smart students too! So Chapter 11 tells us of 6 kinds of "love styles" Storge, Agape, Eros, Mania, Ludus, Pragma..."People differ in how they express and experience love (Lee 1973 in Wood p. 298). So, if the primary styles are limited to

1. Eros: Passionate love with great chemistry, and

2. Storge, which is a comfortable and stable love grounded in friendship....and

3. Ludus, or playful, uncommitted love....

Pick one of the those 3 primary stles and talk about it with us...either guess your own or your current or past partner's style, or analyze the style of some one you are close to, or give a celebrity or politician example---basically name a style and some one who seems to exude that style...how did/can/will it effect you? Styles of love are beyond judgement, neither good or bad--what matters isn't one's style but one's compatability with another, the combination of styles, needs and overall satisfaction in a romantic relationship!

Friends...and then some...

Hi Everyone! We turn from friendship to romantic relationships this week and the Wood text makes alot of comparisions between the two, they do share many stages and dialectical tensions...however, once a friendship becomes romantic, it rarely can return to "just friendship"--Why do you think is?

Tolle states, "Unless and until you access the consciousness of being "present"-intimate relationships will be flawed...True love is beyond the 'romantic' relationship...the reason romantic level love relationships are intense and sought after is partially because they promise delivery from fear, need, and other incomplete feelings which we can choose to work on within ourselves instead of looking for them in someone else" (paraphrased from The Power of Now, p. 140-150). What does this mean to you? Can you share an example that connects with these ideas? Keep it rated G for your old, stodgy teacher! Haha--Smiles--Sandra

FRIENDS

"You just call - out my name - and you know wherever I am...I'll come runnin', to see you again..."

Like the old James Taylor tune says, friendship means the world...and Chapter 10 spends some time on long distance friendships, noting that " Friendships that survive distance involve frequent emails, phone calls, letters and visits" (Wood 283). Can you give us a brief glimpse into a long distance relationship you either still have or had at one time. What was the communication like? Why did it survive the distance? Or why not? were you "friends of the heart" or "friends of the road" according to Wood? Everybody sing!:

"Winter, spring, summer or fall.....all you have to do is call, and I'll be there.....you"ve got a friend!"

Extra Credit Spring Break Bunny Blog

Hi! Ok--You want exra credit? Connect any aspect of bunnies, rabbits, chicks or eggs to one key concept from interpersonal communication, such as mindfulness, proxemics, non-verbal communication, culture, I-it, I-You, I-Thou (Buber)....ummmm.....attachment styles....schemata........You get the idea--Happy Spring, hope you're having a good time! S